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Suppose you know someone who engages in boorish behavior; what kind of feedback can you give such a person, that'd be most likely to help them to recognize it, to see how others perceive it, and to stop it?
Particularly if they're wired to interpret criticism as insult.
Constructive answers only, with sample dialogue, please.
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Bonus Q: how, as a society, can we most constructively integrate people who are "high dudgeon" addicts?
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Monday, November 17, 2008
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From Jeff Pelline:
ReplyDeleteA good place to start is to always ask why. Around here, some people hurl insults and then consider it boorish if you hurl them back. Best to control your own behavior. As Socrates said: "Know thyself."